What an weird dilemma to afflict a Trashwhisperer. I've been noticing these huge piles of dogshit in a particular region of my walk, so I put those signs up I posted here a few entries ago. Concurrently, I started to see this truly hot guy with a sweet young husky dog, who immediately brought to mind Tatum Channing--hence the photo. And I have also noticed that I never have seen him with a plastic bag--empty or full.Oh damn. At some point or another, I'm going to have to confront him. And I know exactly what he'll say. He'll point out that he walks around the elementary school, that, with the playground, occupies two blocks. The area between the sidewalk in the curb is scruffy dirt, the grass long since gone from it. He'll try to pass that off as an area that "everybody" uses for their dogshit, and deny that the other piles--on the grass, even on the sidewalk--are his.
Well, he may not say that, but he's going to have some kind of justification. Or he'll just deny it. Or he'll get defensive. The least likely scenario is that he'll say: "You're right, I'm sorry" and start picking it up. So I'm left with the dilemma of an uncomfortable confrontation that doesn't yield the result I desire, or continuing to fume at the piles. It shouldn't make any difference that he's so goodlooking, but it does. Although it would probably be much worse if he was a gangbanger. Then I'd be too afraid to say anything at all.
In other handsome, screwed-up men news, I think it's over with The New Guy. I couldn't jibe his self-designation as "emotionally unavailable" with the chemistry that occurred when we were together. It made no sense. What is the laughter and affection mean? If that's the way you feel, than what the hell are you dating for in the first place? I don't need to think we're on the boyfriend train, I really don't, but I need to know that I impact the person I am with, and he's willing to be impacted. There's a thousand relationships short of a monogamous and committed one, but even being open to those he seemed to hear as a request for a guarantee.
Feel free NOT to react to the above paragraph, btw. I don't want or need to be reassured that I am lovable, or that's its his loss, or anything else that comes to mind.
MCO 2009
P.S. The very goodlooking Armenian mechanic on the corner did agree to let me use his dumpster for the trash I pick up on Western. So there's some handsome, non-screwed up men news.
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I couldn't jibe his self-designation as "emotionally unavailable" with the chemistry that occurred when we were together. It made no sense. What is the laughter and affection mean? If that's the way you feel, than what the hell are you dating for in the first place? I don't need to think we're on the boyfriend train, I really don't, but I need to know that I impact the person I am with, and he's willing to be impacted. There's a thousand relationships short of a monogamous and committed one, but even being open to those he seemed to hear as a request for a guarantee.
Just letting you know, that you have germinated something in my head.
As to the good looking guy dog poo dilemma, what a GREAT reason to go and talk straight away about something that is ancillary to a relationship! You get to feel him out as you chat, and who knows what you will get back from him!
Then, you will have a reason/or not to talk to him when you see him. A regular 'Hi Chad', could lead up to maybe something.
So TELL HIM that you think he should curb his dog. I CAN'T hurt, for real! If you were me, and he were a she, I would take that opening run as far as I could with it!!
Sometimes you are just too bizarre, Mark. First, I have no reason to think he is gay, but even if I was trying to scope it out, I can't think of a worse approach than confronting him on the fact that his behavior is disgusting. And if he's straight, if he sensed a come on, he'd just turn it right back on me, as if that was the issue.
I wouldn't go into the advice-giving business if I were you.
My parents had a neighbor(no one but me could stand her) who about 20 or 25 years ago had a tiny little dog who would only shit in my moms yard-my mom being the person she is, would grab a shovel, scoop up the pile of poo, set it on her porch, and ring the bell then walk away..after about a year of this the neighbor finally started keeping the dog in her own yard for bathroom duty..me and my pranking skills want to suggest finding where he lives and mailing him some poo with a suggestion to pick up after his dog, but often times what I say isn't to be taken seriously when it comes to things like this..ask my friends kids..lol
LOL ... I am just saying ... if you did think of him as 'open', having a reason to speak to him as an icebreaker than a regular come on is a plus.
I guess I am more aggressive when it comes to meeting new people. Different dynamic for someone who is straight, I guess. The hardest part in meeting someone new, is the initial conversation, and finding something to talk about that is relevant to the both of you.
The dog curbing issue would allow for that. How you then directed the conversation would depend on you. But, as you have said, perhaps this is poor advice.
Yes, Mark, it is different for straight men. No matter how well or not your come on works, a woman is not likely to punch you in the mouth for trying.
Okay, I think that you missed Big Mark's point. He didn't say make a pass at the guy, just that you had a legitimate reason to speak to him and speaking to him about his possible dog poo faux pas would give you a chance to feel him out. I didn't read his comment as suggesting that you come on to the guy. ALthough, I concede that any discussion of his failure to pick up after his pet could result in a punch in the mouth.
I would say something nice and supportive about relationship failed guy but you told me not to.
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